The Give and Take

The Give and Take

The Give and Take

 Why do I love my customers?  

Monday to Wednesday (Oct 28-30) I am going to participate in a work shop that my friend Joey Coleman is conducting.  I consider Joey to be my creative mentor in all things work-related, so I am looking forward to being inspired by his energy and ideas.  As a part of the workshop, I was asked to create this video . . . which I must say I am doing at the end of the day which is not my best energy time.  Nonetheless. . . here it is!  To learn more about this eventMy Video to answer the question, why I love my customers.  Click here to view it. :  Love customers.


To Give is The Greatest Gift

From HBR’s Daily Idea

Cash Bonuses from work to be donated to a good cause?  I love this idea.  I have also been contemplating a similar approach in giving gifts to older (12 and older) children, where you give a cash gift and then ask them to give half of it away to a charity of their picking.  I think it would help them cultivate philanthropic habits and learn the honor of giving to others.  More on engaging friends and family in philanthropy from our friends at the National Council of Family Philanthropy and the Association of Small Foundations.


Keep Your Sanity, Lose Your Mind, Use Your Body

 –some books on making sure you can make yourself happy and achieve your goals

The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg . . . a good read and reminder how habit ingrain a sense of discipline and allow us to control parts of our lives, even when other things seem out of control.

Spark:  The Revolutionary New Science of Exercise and the Brain.  By John J. Ratey. This is an amazing book that demonstrates how and why exercise is so vital throughout our lives.

The Will Power Instinct: How Self Control Works, Why it Matters and What You Can do to Get More of it.  By Kelly McGonigal.  This book is interesting because will power is not as straight forward as you expect.  For example, if you eat at a McDonalds where they sell salads, you are more likely to consume more calories than eating at a McDonalds where they don’t sell salads.  Here is a You Tube video of the author giving an interview.


Leisure-Time Inventions Hit a Peak in Middle Age

Employees’ likelihood of inventing something for their jobs during leisure time – such as while talking a walk or a bath – rises to a peak at age 51, on average, according to a study led by Lee N. Davis of Copenhagen Business School in Denmark. In an analysis of thousands of European patents, the researchers theorize that by the time invention-minded employees reach middle age, they tend to be in management, and their busy… More »

For the Full Report

How to Dispel Distrust at Work

by Judith E. Glaser  |   12:00 PM June 3, 2013

In 2009, security staff at a Texas bank smelled something funny in the air and asked customers to evacuate because they suspected a carbon monoxide leak. Thirty-four people were rushed to the hospital complaining of chest pains and headaches. Of course carbon monoxide is odorless; the cause of this sudden hysteria turned out to be a strong whiff of a lady’s perfume. But by announcing that there might be something harmful in the air, the context was
 created for people to think the worst — and they did.

Please read my original blog:

More on Happiness and Science — dancing together

Ten simple things you can do today that will make you happier, backed by science.

Videos and Presentations that you MUST see

The flip side of being nice is being happy . . . watch this awesome YouTube Video about the science of happiness (done by Soul Pancake) how expressing gratitude makes you even happier! Let’s go people — thank you, thank me, thanks to everyone whom I don’t even know to thank!

Things I am Reading that Inspire Me

Articles about Whether or Not You Should Be a Nice Person (9/23/13)

Being Nice is not A Sign of Weakness

Paying it Forward Through Mentoring

Here’s an article that argues against the advantages of being nice  (They’re wrong, but I want to show my open mindedness).

Are Successful People Nice?


 Good Reads Re: Transparency / Communications (9/11/13)

Tony Hseih’s book about Zappos, Delivering Happiness, is a case study in transparency and the way that it is a tactic for better staff morale, creative answers to problems, and increased loyalty and commitment. (Of course I have to put the Amazon link in!).

Jim Collins’ Book: Good to Great: Why Some Companies Make the Leap… and Others Don’t offers examples of how, why and where transparency has made the difference in creating great companies.

John C Maxwell’s work:  The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership and The 360 Degree Leader, both highlight the importance of transparency.


Gender and Cultural Perspectives in Leadership and Management

A super interesting HBR blog about perceptions and realities of leadership.  Getting to the top is different than staying at the top. And men have more hubris than women.



Help Me Out

Share with me other ideas and tips about how and why being nice is better than being mean.

I have read several excellent management and leadership books by white men and now I am looking to diversify my perspective, can you recommend any good leadership and management books not written by white men in the comment section below?

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